Means to Our Ends
As I’ve found to be the case elsewhere, in speaking with UCEvians
during my time so far here, I’ve
learned that familiarity with core congregational documents varies widely. I’m a good example: while it is actually my job to know about policies and protocols, I have been by necessity learning about them over time – where to find them, what exactly they say, and how to implement them. As we engage in our pledge drive this month, I thought it might be appropriate to share here some of what I’ve been coming to understand about our Ends Statements (https://ucevanston.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/endstatements.pdf; for general information about principles of policy governance, under which UCE operates, I recommend this UUA site: https://www.uua.org/leadership/learning-center/governance/policybased/articles/63172.shtml).
Specifically, I’ve thinking deeply about the part of our ends statement laid to the charge of our Lifespan Learning Council:
In our multigenerational community . . . We foster intellectual excitement, lifelong learning, truth seeking, and respect for our traditions of reason and faith.
As staff lead for this council, it falls to me to write an annual monitoring report on our congregation’s compliance with this particular end. As I’ve been urged by Jeanne Kerl, our beloved board president, to write three newsletter contributions drawing on my most recent Ends Monitoring Report for End 2, I think it makes sense to begin with my interpretation of this assigned end – a required component of my annual report. I’ve run this past our coordinator for the Learning Associates who put together our Tuesday Night Adult RE Series, Dan Solomon, and our chair for the Children & Youth Program Team, Sue Larson, and they have both reassured me that this is indeed what we intend to be about in our work together:
When we say we are a multigenerational community, it means we seek to be in relationship and build community across the lifespan. It means we seek connection and belonging in a community where people of every age are in conversation with one another, in respectful, age-appropriate ways, about our diverse life and spiritual journeys. And it means that our congregation offers events and other opportunities specifically designed to foster such multigenerational conversations. Multigenerational community is about more than lifelong learning – i.e., an individual’s serial learning from birth through death. It is also about lifespan learning, or collaborative learning across generations.
When we say we foster intellectual excitement, it means we seek to nurture eagerness for understanding. Understanding is about far more than information or content delivery; it involves integration of new knowledge with prior learning, even sometimes re-learning what we have misunderstood or understood incompletely. In order to foster excitement, or eagerness to learn, we seek to help learners retain or rediscover their sense of awe and wonder in the everyday, imminent miracles of the world and universe, as well as their joy in discovery.
When we say we foster lifelong learning, it means we seek to nurture and sustain development of spiritual practices and habits of mind that will support the acquisition of knowledge and wisdom throughout the lifespan.
When we say we foster truth seeking, it means we seek to nurture and sustain community members of every age in habits of both perspective-taking and critical thinking that will help them weigh varying viewpoints and come to complex truths that resonate in mind, body, and spirit.
When we say we foster respect for our traditions of reason and faith, it means we seek to offer members of every age opportunities to encounter bodies of knowledge about our denominational principles and sources, the history of our prophetic thinkers, and the covenants and traditions of our congregational community. It also means we seek to honor logical truth, the truth of our observations, and the truth of our inward experiences and convictions, making room for all of these facets in individual and congregational life.
With regard to how our ends statements are mapped in our bylaws onto our congregational councils and their respective staff leads, let us be thoughtful about how our religious education curricula and practices are holistically understood across the span of our ends statements. Let us take care that our religious education programs are creating joy and wonder through music and the arts; that they are building beloved community through inclusive welcome, compassion, care, generosity, and forgiveness; that they are developing relationships that open us to our congregation, community, and world; and that they support us in acting for peace and justice through study, advocacy, and outreach. Let us foster thoroughgoing collaboration across councils, and among staff leads, in order for excellence in religious education to be fostered in multigenerational community. Let us bring one another into greater understanding that the whole community is necessary to fostering lifespan religious education, and that our truest curriculum resides in everything we do here.
I hope it’s helpful for folks to see my articulated understanding of the work of religious education and what it entails here at UCE. My thought is that this interpretation should function sort of like a congregational philosophy of teaching. In the last paragraph directly above, I am trying to caution us against a pitfall that I have seen too clearly in my former profession as a an academic: turfiness. I think of the issue of turf as being highly relevant not only to our pledge drive, but also to covenantal relationships within our beloved community. It is so important that we learn not to defend our turf, but to share it, and share it, and share it, until it becomes unrecognizable as turf at all, and becomes something more like the shared ground of our being. Religious Education cannot succeed if Worship does not, if Social Justice does not, if Stewardship and Membership do not. I would also venture to say that none of these can succeed without Lifespan Learning. We are all in this together, beloveds. Moreover, our young people are watching us. They are learning all the time about what it means to be a UU in how we treat one another. They are never not learning this from us. Indeed, we are all of us always learning this from one another. Let us take care, dear ones. Let us, most of all – whatever our worries or disagreements – show one another loving kindness. When we forget, let us begin again. This is how we nurture the human spirit for a world made whole. Let it begin with me.
© March 15, 2019
Update from the Board Chair
Update from the Board Chair
My apologies for not updating the congregation more frequently during the year. I plan to remedy that in the next few months. Know that it is not because I have been sitting at home streaming all 72 seasons of the Real Housewives of the UUA.
After my medical leave absence in the fall, I came back to full-time board work on Dec. 1st. One of the main priorities was getting to know Greg and establishing a working relationship with him. This takes time—but Greg and I have worked at it and, even though we both face a barrage of events, meetings, and planning sessions–we speak frequently and try to reflect on matters both philosophical and mundane. I appreciate Greg’s Midwestern roots, his calm/reflective manner and his willingness to learn how to navigate UCE in all it’s uniqueness.
Update on the interim period: Greg has been listening a lot through feedback forms, listening sessions at Curt’s, affinity groups, and sessions with councils and with board members. In addition, he’s been leading us through the first stage of the interim process—looking at our Heritage. The scrapbook has been the main activity in this stage, as well as the lovely UCE Through the Decades service in February. I will let Greg tell you more about what he is learning about us, but please know that we have been having substantive conversations about topics like:
- What is the relationship between the congregation and the minister?
- How do the staff and congregation treat each other?
- How do we talk about money and finances at UCE and how could that improve?
- How do we measure success against our ENDS?
- What are the good things that this congregation is doing?
- How could we be helping the most marginalized folks in our community?
- What do our young people and our young families need?
- What should Religious Education look like? How is it changing?
- How do our processes compare with other UU congregations?
- How do we help members gain leadership skills? How we we encourage new folks to step up to take on new leadership roles?
- How do we raise enough money to not have a leaky roof, a new kitchen, etc.?
Board members don’t have all the answers to these questions, but please be patient with us as we wrestle with them and soon, we will begin to involving you all in these discussions. Stay tuned.
March 17, 2019
Junior High Credo Service – All Ages
Our junior high youth have been at work this year on a statement of belief and life purpose, working toward both keen discernment and clear articulation. Come hear what they have to teach us. All Ages service (sanctuary)
From The Executive Operations Director
It is exciting to be a part of all of the activity and forward momentum at UCE. New leaders are emerging, long time members are stepping into significant roles, pledge drive, ministerial search and capital campaign are setting the stage for an even brighter future.
Members and pledging friends will be receiving a letter shortly with information about how you can make your pledge for the 2019-2020 fiscal year. There is so much to be grateful for at UCE, so many programs, a new settled minister on the horizon, community events, social justice work, not to mention meaningful worship which enriches our lives and reminds us to go out in the world and keep striving to make it a better place. All of this happens through the hard work of staff and volunteers. Our building provides a safe and comfortable place for us to do this good work. All of this requires generosity on the part of members and friends of UCE.
Julie Milner is this year’s Pledge Drive Chair. This year’s pledge effort will be an abbreviated process with a letter and information followed by testimonials and reminders of why everyone should support UCE and raise their pledge. At the end of the drive on March 31 there will be a celebration. The theme is “Engagement”
Watch your mail for your letter and join us each Sunday to be reminded of why financial support is so important to keep the Worship, Music, Religious Education, Great Staff, Social Justice Work, Care of our Building, and the many events and meetings that support why we are in this community.
Thank you for your part in keeping us strong and thriving.
CONFLICT RESOLUTION and HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS LENDING LIBRARY NOW AVAILABLE
The Congregational Relations Team (CRT) is delighted to announce the opening of our new lending library on conflict resolution and healthy relationships, located on the book cart in the hallway right outside the church office. We thank the Endowment Committee for funding the project to date, and plan to add more materials in the future. While most books are for adults, the library includes some targeted to children from preschoolers through junior high age, and a few intended for teachers or youth group leaders. The CRT encourages all members of the UCE community to check out the library and make use of it as needed, and to please let us know which books you (or your children or students) find most helpful, as we plan to purchase additional copies of the most popular titles. Suggestions of additional titles always welcome too. Please direct feedback to Carla Leone, CRT Chair at Carla.leone10@gmail.com. Here is a list of titles of books for adults; in future issues we will list those for children and youth and provide a little more information about each book and why we chose them.
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan & Al SwitzlerEverything is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution by Diane Musha Hamilton
Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher and William Ury
Conflict Management in Congregations – David Scott, Editor
Every Congregation Needs a Little Conflict by George Bullard Jr
When Sorry Isn’t Enough by Gary Chapman & Jennifer Thomas
I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen
The Relationship Cure by John Gottman
The Relationship Skills Workbook by Julia B. Colwell, PhD
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication by Bento C. Leal III
March 10, 2019
Waldo Emerson’s Obsession: Give All To Love
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) asked a lot of questions of those who claimed to be the voice of God in nineteenth-century America. He found religion stale, with adherents living vicariously through the real-time faith encounters of previous generations, those who actually “beheld God and nature face to face.” Ralph Waldo soon determined to settle for nothing less than a fresh anointing, a genuine encounter with all that is holy. His questions: “Why should not we also enjoy an original relation to the universe?” “Why should not we also have a poetry and philosophy of insight and not of tradition and a religion by revelation to us, and not the history of theirs?” Today these will be our questions too. Service led by Rev. Gregory Stewart. All Ages Worship at 9:15. Religious Education classes begin downstairs.