Scheduling Changes: Circles opportunities will be extended to November 13 meeting on Sundays only at 12:30. Those dates include Oct 16, 23, 30 and Nov 6, 13. The response forms will be accepted until Nov 13. The Board meets for our regularly scheduled meeting on Nov 16 where we will discuss a recommendation for next steps.

Response forms are available on the UCE bulletin board and will be available after Sunday services at the back of the sanctuary. Response forms can be returned to the UCE office in a mail slot dedicated to the Name Change Circles or a marked envelope at the same table the response forms will be after Sunday services.

You do not need to attend a circle to be able to return a response form.

We want to thank the members who have shared their thoughts/feelings on a name change with us through circles and in response forms. Remember, the data on your response forms is what we will use to decide our recommendation.

We want to acknowledge those members who might not attend a circle or turn in a form. Your silence on the issue of a name change is information we will take into account when deciding our recommendation.

There is a tension for us as we facilitate this process between wanting to hear your voices and seeming to over-promote the process. We will err a touch on the side of promoting the process to best give you an opportunity to be heard either in your participation or with your silence. We have been invited to facilitate a circle for Crackerbarrel (last week) and the Men’s Group (this week). We are willing to facilitate a circle if requested. We will share our Circle Process Agenda with you if you want to facilitate your own circle or you can use the Circle Process Agenda to engender discussion in your existing groups such as covenant groups.

For those who are curious about the numbers so far we have met with not quite 30 members as of this Wednesday with 15 forms turned in.

In peace and love,

Brian Meister, Board Member

The Importance of Feedback

We have received two important bits of feedback this week from our Beloved Community on the Name Change Discussion Circle Process. One was that we were not loud enough in introducing the Circle Process which we hope was answered by the blast that went out Monday to our members.

The other bit of feedback was that our silence on the history of past name change discussions and why we chose this time to have another discussion might seem to some that the Circle Process is inside politics. The feedback we received was that the Circle Process blast might not engage members who might be more engaged with details about the past and the present.

Our members come from many different religious backgrounds and experiences. For some of us this might be our first religious community. As a pluralistic religious community it is sometimes difficult to find language that fits all of us. The name of our religious home is often the first contact people have with us. The name might draw people in, might send a message that we are not a fit with other’s needs in a religious community, or might be benign in one’s search for a religious community. The name change discussions seem to derive from our personal stories of finding and living in such a pluralistic community along with how we present ourselves to the world around us.

The discussions through the years, I know of many from my 30 years of attending our Beloved Community, have led to at least one membership vote that failed to make a change and to a proposal for a name change at the 2015-2016 Annual Meeting. That proposal was taken off the ballot based on concerns that there were not enough opportunities for discussion on a name change. The discussions were lay led. The Board did not participate in a leadership role in the process.

The proposal was pulled with the understanding that there would be a process for discussion during the 2016-2017 year. The Board has taken a leadership role in this discussion process. We chose a circle process as we believe that circles give our Beloved Community members an opportunity to share their thoughts/feelings on a name change along with sharing empathy with other’s thoughts/feelings in a deep listening, covenant group style setting which fits well with our Covenant of Engagement.

Please keep the feedback coming. I promise the feedback will always be thoughtfully reflected upon and not always answered in a long written response.

Brian Meister Board Member